Many women now face the problem of family alcoholism. "My husband drinks every day, what should I do? ", "My husband has been drinking for 10 days, how is his performance? "-These questions have been heard more and more recently. Of course, the spouse is an alcoholic—it's terrible. Drunkenness and alcoholism, if left untreated, can often turn life into eternal torture. But here you must always remember that alcoholism is a disease, not a person's personal choice. A patient undoubtedly needs the support of his loved ones, especially when he cannot solve the problem alone. However, under normal circumstances, when the husband drinks, the wife suffers first. At such moments, the question often arises: What should I do when my husband overeats? There are few ways to get rid of this situation: leave him and divorce, or try to fight for your life and help your loved one. Although we can confidently say that this battle will not be easy. But the decision here must be made by the woman herself, and the advice of a psychologist will not help. Only she can decide what she wants and what she can do to achieve her goals.
Tough decisions
Divorce is the simplest and easiest solution. Therefore, women seem to relieve themselves of responsibility for the future destiny of men. But in this case, you should stick to a certain behavior. The most important thing here is: if you decide to leave, leave. No matter what kind of persuasion or pleading, it is important to know that the promises of alcoholics are not credible. He will do whatever it takes to convince his wife: burst into tears, give gifts, and kneel down. If this does not work, he is likely to resort to violence or blackmail. So, don't listen to his command, because I believe this time, you will provoke such a concert to repeat itself. And they can last for more than a week, or even more than a month. In this case, the psychologist’s advice is clear: You need to make a firm decision, communicate it clearly to your husband, don’t believe in promises, and don’t succumb to mercy. We must always remember that no matter how bad the husband is, the wife will be worse.
If you choose to make a choice in the direction of fighting and helping those closest to you, then women must be patient. In this case, the most important thing is to understand why the husband started drinking, and then delve into the solution to this problem. Today, there are many ways to stop a person from drinking.
First, you need to learn how to do things right. If your spouse starts drinking more frequently and drinking regularly, you can try to change your strategy. After all, he was sure that when he got home, he would burst into tears and smashed the plate again. Or maybe it was death silence and cold contempt that greeted him? In any case, you need to try to change: become more affectionate, surround him with attention and care, try to open up to him, besides drinking, there are other joys of life. This behavior often confuses men, and then it is much easier to deal with them. At the very least, you will protect yourself and your children from unreasonable attacks and protect your nerves.
Second, you need to work hard to protect the believer from his drinking friends. In fact, in most cases, men drink vodka for the company or out of loneliness. Men’s self-esteem is low when they drink heavily. In their view, they are no longer needed by anyone, nor suitable for anything. Try to prove how wrong he is:
- Show that he is the head of the family, it is her hope and support, without his participation, everything will fall apart;
- Focus on children who find that they are having psychological difficulties living with alcoholic fathers;
- Attract him with new interests and hobbies.
Interdependence
A woman may not be able to leave her alcoholic husband. There may be many reasons for this, but she needs to figure out how to continue living.
There is something called interdependence, when a woman reluctantly falls into social or physical dependence on her husband, trying to get him out of trouble and get him back into the family. This usually happens when a woman has a strong emotional attachment to her significant other. Only experienced psychologists can help here.
There are obvious signs to judge whether there is interdependence:
- Women are responsible for the health, emotions and happiness of their husbands;
- Trying to please her husband by doing all the work for him;
- Feel that it is necessary to help the husband solve the problem, and solve the problem for him in general;
- Defend the spouse's improper behavior in front of others;
- Feeling guilty about what happened to her husband;
- Close your eyes to the problem and believe that everything you haven't done is for the better;
- Fall into the same dependence on alcohol, unable to resist;
- Think of yourself as a victim of past sins;
- Attach to the spouse physically or emotionally.
What to do for the wife when the husband is overeating
There are many reasons why men overeating for a long time. The following are the main ones:
- Don't want to resist addiction;
- Family conflicts;
- Unable to cope with stress.
Everyone knows that alcohol can cause euphoria, which can form one of a person's strongest addictions, and he may not want to overcome it. Weak mentality and willpower may also be one of the reasons for alcoholism. If the stressful situation at home or at work is chronic, then one can drink alcohol almost every day.
Denying alcoholism is a problem for all alcoholics. You can constantly hear all kinds of excuses, such as: "Yes, I am an alcoholic, I like it! " or "I don't drink for no reason. " An alcoholic never admits that he is addictive, in his opinion, You can stop drinking if you want to stop drinking. But in fact, everything ended with another carnival, and then the affirmation of the fortitude of the character of myself and everyone around me started again.
It is not difficult to understand what to do in this situation-treat it clearly. But what a wife should never do is worth pondering. not worth it:
- Make excuses for his alcoholism;
- Hide the problem, dress him up with needles, try to show that he is not him;
- Defend the fact that the husband is not working or is often late in front of colleagues or bosses;
- Drink with your spouse and let him drink less;
- Drink at home, as long as he doesn’t drink on the street;
- Wash and clean up the consequences of his alcoholism after him;
- Buy wine
- Sexual blackmail;
- Threatened with divorce;
- Treat her husband secretly.
There are different ways to help people get rid of overeating:
- Drug solution
- Folk remedy
- Psychological assistance and rehabilitation programs;
- Prayer or conspiracy against alcoholism.
Light orgy
With such an initial stage of alcohol dependence, you can try to use folk methods to get rid of binge. It is also good to be able to treat at home. The first thing to do is to put the patient to sleep, and then continue to rest in bed. It is recommended to drink plenty of water to restore the water-salt balance in the body. In this case, various fruit juice drinks, herbal infusions and decoctions are suitable. You can also perform contrast showers, herbal baths, massages and other procedures aimed at improving and restoring the body. It is not worthwhile to seek medical intervention without consulting an expert, otherwise unforeseen complications may result.
Heavy drinking
When the binge lasts more than three days, you will most likely need the help of an anesthesiologist. You can call an expert at home. He will correctly assess the patient's condition and prescribe the medications that need to be taken, carefully following the doctor's instructions.
In most cases, in order to relieve withdrawal symptoms, the doctor at home will give an intravenous drip, which helps to remove alcohol toxins and ethanol breakdown products from the blood. It also often contains restorative ingredients and tranquilizers. The fact is that drinkers often become aggressive, panic, or experience unexplainable fear.
In order to calm him down and restore his nervous system after overeating, the doctor may recommend attending classes with a psychologist and prescribing psychotropic drugs.
Heavy carnival
Severe binge eating usually lasts for a week or more. If the situation is almost out of control, or the drinker has a history of chronic medical conditions, in this case, only hospitalization in an anesthesia or toxicology clinic can help. Receiving treatment in the hospital will help prevent the unpleasant consequences of overeating, which may manifest as "delirium tremens" or alcoholic psychosis. In this state, the patient is unable to control himself, can act aggressively against any member of the family, and is in a state of insanity. Of course, it is best not to mention this, but if sudden withdrawal syndrome is difficult, treatment with herbs or prayer is essential. You need to go to the anesthesiology hospital as soon as possible, otherwise it will cause serious harm to your health or even death.
in conclusion
When the husband is drunk-it is a terrible sorrow for those around him. They are worried and painful, even more painful than the patient himself. Sometimes life becomes so unbearable, you have to make a choice: keep your family or keep your health. Few women can end the once happy family life, especially if the children still love their father. All that is left for her is to pull the one she loves out of this terrible trap. However, it is very difficult to do so alone, and it is actually not necessary. In this case, it is inseparable from psychological help and support. The advice of an experienced expert will tell you how to do the right thing and what to do to get your husband out of overeating and get him back to a normal life. All that is left is to have great patience and never despair, because despair will lead to reckless behavior, and then you will sincerely regret it.